Totti: «Ilary? I didn’t betray myself first. I found the messages on his phone »| The exclusive interview

from Aldo Cazzullo

Francesco Totti tells of the break with Ilary: “We have been together with Noemi since New Year’s Eve.” The exclusive interview

Francesco Totti, knows what is the most clicked and debated topic on the Net in 2022, more than Covid, the war, the queen …
“Stop. This story is not gossip for me. This story is flesh and blood to me. Mine is involved life. There are three people involved that I love more than myself: my children, whom I want to protect in every way. And there is a love that lasted twenty years. I would have expected everything, except that it would end like this ».

The fact remains that everyone is talking about it.
“Everyone except me. I haven’t said a word yet. I said I wasn’t going to talk and I didn’t. But I’ve read too much nonsense, too many hoaxes. Some have even made my children suffer. Thats enough”.

What nonsense?
“Many, in particular one: that the culprit of the breakup would be only me. That the marriage would end because of my betrayal.

It is not so?
“I want to clarify this point: I was not the first to betray. Then I’ll be silent again. Whatever will be replied to me, I will shut up. Because my priority is to protect my children ».

You and Ilary are the topic of the year because you were beautiful. It seemed like a fairy tale: the most loved footballer, the TV star.
“Fairy tales don’t exist. We’ve had ups and downs, like any couple. Then something broke. ‘

“The real crisis exploded between March and April last year. But I had been suffering for some time ».

«It all started in 2016. My penultimate year as a footballer. Quitting isn’t easy. It’s a bit like dying “.

She was over forty.
«Yes, but I’ve been playing in Serie A since I was sixteen. And some things you miss. The adrenaline, the fatigue. I also said it, in my farewell speech at the stadium: “I’m afraid, stay close to me”. And the Romanists have never left me alone ».

On the pitch she gave a bold, almost arrogant image of herself. «Mo je fa er spoon».
“Because I knew, in that semi-final of the European Championship, that the Dutch goalkeeper would have thrown right or left, and if I lobbed I would have scored. But what awaited me after the retirement, I did not know. And in any case, the penalty I remember with the most satisfaction is the one at the World Cup with Australia “

Candle. Kaiserslautern, June 26, 2006. Last minute. We were 10 to 11, if she was wrong we wouldn’t have won the Cup.
«There was also Ilary. I scored and they framed her, in worldview. It was the only match she came to see in Germany, before the final ».

She Totti put her thumb in her mouth like a child.
“Like Cristian, our firstborn. He was eight months old. I cared: for my family, for Italy, and for Lippi. When they broke my leg, I had found him in the clinic when I woke up from the anesthesia. He had come to tell me: Francesco, I’ll wait for you and I’ll take you to the World Cup ».

When she quarreled with another coach, Spalletti, Ilary intervened in her defense, calling him a “little man”.
“She did it all by herself. She wanted to protect me, she had an almost maternal reaction. You have never understood much about football ».

She quit football.
«And after that I also left Rome, where I had started working as a manager. The break with the old property was traumatic: like having to leave your home. I was fragile, I lacked references, and Ilary did not understand the importance of this pain. Then he arrived on 12 October 2021 ».

What happened on October 12th?
“My dad is dead. Covid. And I last saw it on August 26th. I knew he was sick, and I couldn’t visit him. My dad was always there for me, he never lost a trip. He never paid me a compliment, but with the others he was very proud: Francesco is number one, he said. Then I took Covid too, in violent form: 25 days locked up at home, I was about to end up in hospital. In short, it was a terrible time for me. Luckily there were the children. Finally I was able to spend more time with Cristian, Chanel and Isabel. My wife, on the other hand, when I needed her most, wasn’t there. In the spring of 2021 we went into crisis definitively. The last year has been tough. There was no more dialogue, there was no longer anything ».

And you, Totti, didn’t you make mistakes?
“Of course. When it breaks, it breaks in two: 50 and 50. I should have been with her more, alone. Instead, on the weekend I organized with her friends. Ilary was also there; but I should have taken her to dinner, given her more attention than she did. ‘

She, Totti, had an affair with Noemi Bocchi.
“It is not so”.

Dagospia has published a photo in which on December 4th 2021 you are sitting not far away at the stadium.
«Noemi was not at the stadium with me. We arrived with different cars, we had different seats. Do you think I’m taking my lover to the Olimpico? A more intimate environment isn’t it? However, it is true that I already knew her. And I frequented her as a friend of hers, with her padel friends. Our story began after the New Year. And it was consolidated in March 2022. I repeat: I was not the first to betray ».

What happened?
«In September of last year the rumors began to reach me: look, Ilary has another one. Indeed, more than one ».

Did she believe it?
“It seemed impossible to me. Instead I found the messages ».

Did you spy on your wife’s cell phone?
“I had never done it in twenty years, nor had she ever done it with me. But when I got warnings from different people, whom I trust, I got suspicious. I looked at her cell phone. And I saw that there was a third person, who acted as an intermediary between Ilary and another ».

When did it happen?
“I noticed it in the fall, but the messages were from before.”

Who was the third person?
“Alessia, Ilary’s hairdresser, her friend.”

And the other?
“Don’t let me tell you the name. He is a totally different person from me, who belongs to a world very far from mine, and fortunately. It was a shock. Not only that Ilary had someone else; but that he might be interested in such a man. Yet he had it ».

What did the messages say?
“Something like: let’s meet at the hotel; no, it is more prudent of me ».

How did you react?
“I kept it all inside. I haven’t told anyone, not even Vito Scala, the friend who has been by my side since I was eleven. I am not one who turns a blind eye, but I preferred to ignore it. I sent down, not to break the family, to protect the kids. I suffered like a dog. She said to me: this year I will stay a little longer in Milan, I am going back to Rome less, and I thought: I believe it, you have this other one … But I still hoped it wasn’t true ».

Totti, look what happens. All couples are exposed to temptations; even more so a couple like yours. It will have happened to Ilary. It must have happened to her too. Isn’t it that she looks like the classic Italian male, who takes his liberties but gets mad if he discovers those of his wife?
“There have been rumors in the past. On her and on me. But they were indeed rumors. Here was the evidence. The facts. And that threw me into depression. I couldn’t sleep anymore. I pretended nothing happened but it was no longer me, I was another person. I got out thanks to Noemi ».

Do you know what everyone thought? That Noemi is very reminiscent of Ilary from a few years ago.

“I haven’t thought about it at all. Indeed, Noemi is the opposite of Ilary, also in terms of character. But I don’t like making comparisons ».

When did your relationship start?
“We used to hang out as friends. Then, after the New Year, it became a story. When on 22 February Dagospia published the photo at the stadium, the one taken in December, Ilary asked me for an account ».

And she?
«I denied it. At first I didn’t tell the truth, neither to her nor to her children; as it was inevitable, since I still hoped to save everything. But at that point I took off a burden, and I asked Ilary about this other man. She also denied at first. She said she had never met him. She then realized that I knew, and she told me that they had only met with that guy to have a coffee. We also had a three-way confrontation with Alessia, and they both denied it. In fact, I know they met as early as March 2021. And that she dated him and other men a little too closely. Before my story with Noemi was born ».

Yet with Ilary a little while ago you had your picture taken in the restaurant, as if you were always a couple. Have you tried to rebuild the marriage?
“We tried a little, but not completely. Nobody wanted to try anything more. Let’s say it wasn’t a great attempt. I knew what she had done, even if I didn’t say anything so as not to damage her image of her, especially while she was doing the Island of the Famous. And she probably got bored. Because in reality the marriage was over. ‘

And you announced the breakup. With two separate releases.
«I would have preferred a single press release, signed by both of us, to say that we had tried to overcome the difficulties but we had not succeeded. Ilary refused: because she had gone on TV to deny, to ensure that she was all right; and she couldn’t take it back. So she wrote her statement about her, to argue that she had done something to save the relationship, and I didn’t. ‘

And you went for lawyers. You joined Annamaria Bernardini De Pace with her historical lawyer, Antonio Conte.
“I was looking for an agreement. I didn’t want to go to court. So I proposed: we think first of the children, we leave the house to them, and we take turns, we make three days for each one. I didn’t want to see the guys with the suitcase in their hand, between Eur and North Rome. But Ilary said no. So I proposed to divide the house, after all it is large. Or get one all for yourself. Nothing to do: only she wants to stay in the house, and that’s it. Then we didn’t talk about her anymore, because she left with her sister for Tanzania. A vacation paid for by me ».

What will it ever be …
“That’s not all. Her father went with her to empty the safety deposit boxes, and he took away my watch collection. She didn’t even leave the guarantees, not even the boxes ».

The watches?
“There are some very valuable Rolexes. He claims I gave them to him; but if they are men’s watches … I refuse to think it is a question of money. If anything, it’s a spite ».

What did she do?
“And what was I supposed to do? I hid the bags from her, hoping for an exchange … (Totti smiles) But there was no way. And it’s not over ».

What’s still there?
“He had a private investigator follow me. People very close to her put bedbugs in my car, and the GPS to know where I was going; when it was enough for him to ask me. Other people have stationed themselves under Noemi’s house… ».

In fact, «Chi» has published his photo under Noemi’s house.
“And where is the scandal? By now everyone knows about our history. I try to live it with discretion, always so as not to upset the kids ».

What are the boys like?
“I love them, and they love me. Last month all three brought them to me in Sabaudia. Cristian plays football: half wing. He has a great passion, he went up and down every day with Rome to train. With females I melt. Chanel is now a teenager, she is not an easy age, I don’t want her to suffer. From an early age they were already used to seeing mum and dad one at a time: we were both very busy with work, and the players don’t have the weekend off … Isabel is still small, but she knows that she is now her he understood everything. Also because at a certain point she took her away from me ».

What happened?
“The deal was: July with the mother, August with me. Then Ilary worried about that Isabel she missed her, but I calmed her down: Isabel was fine, and then we made video calls every day. Instead she arrived in Sabaudia and she took her by boat to Croatia ».

What does your mother Fiorella say?
“Nothing. She suffers in silence ».

Is it true that she was against her marriage?
“Nonsense. Mom always respected my decisions. At most, she may have felt the Roman mother’s normal jealousy for her son; that if you take Our Lady as daughter-in-law, she is not okay with her… ».

What happens now?
“I do not know. I fear that with Ilary he will end up in court. I still hope that we can find an agreement and end this story here. For sure, now I am silent. I don’t know if it’s understood, but this afternoon it cost me six months to live. I would have preferred a thousand times to give you an interview to talk about football and Roma, which I always carry in my heart “

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Totti: «Ilary? I didn’t betray myself first. I found the messages on his phone »| The exclusive interview